Updated: Nov 4, 2020
We are living in unprecedented times. We can’t rely on the old go-to’s of shopping, parties, dining out or travel to entertain, distract, or satisfy. Options for "finding happiness" are limited.
Now more than ever, we need to look deeper to find the true source of peace, joy and contentment from within.
The experience of real happiness ultimately comes from not needing anything to be other than what it is - letting go of the need to have it "my way" and accepting life on life's terms, without exception.
Acceptance is not something we try for. Trying to accept usually leads to repression, which will always backfire. Rather, acceptance is the natural outcome - the byproduct - of doing our deep inner work.
This means taking the focus off external circumstances and other people and putting it on ourselves.
Improving your sense of wellbeing in body, mind and spirit is the direct path to happiness. The better you feel physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, the less you will be affected by what's happening around you and the less you will feel the need to change it.
The more you accept, the less you are affected, the happier you feel.
Here are three tips you can use right now for opening the door to happiness:
1- Look back. Recognize the countless times you sought happiness in something external. Acknowledge that the satisfaction did not last (it never does). Realize that whatever you are missing out on in this season of time would only be another temporary fix. This may skim off some if the surface level tension around it.
2 - Be proactive. Focus on what you can do and not what you can't do. This will help you feel empowered when you feel stuck or helpless. You are in control of the choices you make. Choose that which helps you feel nourished and satisfied from the inside-out like being in nature, cooking, creating art, dancing, listening to music, meditating, praying, exercising, and talking with friends that can support you.
3 - Be grateful. There is always something to be grateful for. If you have a roof over head, food on the table and clean, drinkable water, you are more fortunate than 98% of the world's population. If that's not enough, think of the love your pet expresses when you walk in the door. The miracle of life unfolding in every moment. The beauty of Nature. Loved ones who make you smile. Put your attention on whatever it is that gets you in touch with your heart. When you find yourself fixated on negative thoughts about current events, gently release them and redirect your attention on one of the countless blessings before you. It's all about perspective.